A piece of advice

Just thought you should know...

I have dated more in the last six months than in my entire life. 

It has been very exciting but at the same time ridiculously tiring, often tough and sometimes bat shit boring and predictable. 

I distinctly remember a conversation I had with a girlfriend one night over drinks. It was post-break-up and I was feeling liberated, anxious and slightly giddy about what lay ahead in my life. Now, my friend is just one of the most open, forward and awesomely sexually honest people I know. She couldn't give two fucks less about what you would think about her decisions and personal life. So I took it to her to help me figure out how to get my groove back. 

I remember asking, 'How do you do it? How do you go out there and meet people? How do you hook up and be intimate with someone...without actually pouring out all your heart and soul and just drowning in all your own insecurities??' And she just said to me, 'You go out, you get shit-faced and you just do it. You don't think about it. It doesn't matter because you're a 20-something year old and this is what it's all about. There's no better time than now.'

I know this might all come across as taboo and slightly insane, but I really took this advice to heart. I haven't just applied it to my love life, but also with anything else I find myself speculating over. It's helped me to take these leaps, make these so-called mistakes and not beat myself up for living it. 

I'm not madly in love with myself now, but I'm certainly more forgivable towards myself and just happier as result...This is the most fun I've had and the most free and confident I've felt in a while.